Thursday November 21, 2013
I don't think there is a right answer to that question but in my opinion and that of my spooks it's a no, well when you are learning anyway. If I read for friends, close friends or family I tend to second guess, and re check and worry that I am wrong. However with friends and family though theirs are the spooks that make impromptu visits the most, and if that happens and they talk I don't even think twice, I pass it on because I am not sitting there trying to read, I am generally doing something non-spooky and someone pops up!
Many newbies are told by their teachers and mentors to practice on friends. I was lucky because my teacher/mentor was both so I used to practice on her and sometimes (accidentally) spin the most unholy bullshit when I had my training wheels on! So why do I think it's a bad thing?
With friends you care, and that's not to say that when reading for others we don't care, it's why we do it in the first place. But we want what we want for friends, good things happy things and things to go right. I am lucky that my teacher never took offence to some of the drama I came out with seriously! She knew it was practice though and thankfully took it in her stride and was also a good enough medium to know when I was waffling.
When we read for friends the mortal and emotional us can come into play, especially if we don't check out of the human side of things before we read. What happens if we get something that is bad? Can we really detach to continue the reading if we are telling a friend we love that (for example) their husband is about to leave or become ill? More experienced mediums can read for who the heck they like, because they are good enough at it and on top of it, they are absolutely sure of their human self and their spiritual self because their own learning path is such that they know the difference. Learning to feel the difference between a spooky message and a thought is one of the toughest parts of starting out. When we are practising we aren't experienced at this and that's why it can be dangerous, especially if we get one thing correct and then something else which may not be accurate but is taken on good faith.
When I first started I just put it out there that I was going to read and offered freebies. I got requests, literally, from all over the world! I couldn't possibly be influenced by my own emotions so had no choice but to honour what I was getting without adding my opinion or my interpretation. It went ok, I think I had one in five that thought I was a faker which was ok as no money was changing hands and no one could see my red face! I kept doing that until I felt I was doing it with accuracy, or enough accuracy to be able to call myself a practising medium and do it with confidence.
So if you have your training wheels on and want to give it s shot - practice on strangers. There's no background, no human influence and you will know without a doubt whether you are ready. That's my two cents worth anyway.
Tomorrow: Why not all mediums are readers....
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